The Experience: From Mom and Dad
The Experience: From Mom and Dad
Home birth was against the grain in my family. Not 1 person in my talked about history had experienced anything but hospital births. My only knowledge and desire to home birth was based on 2 things:
1. My closest childhood friend had began birthing at home with intentions to home birth, but was led to the hospital after exhaustion after 40 hrs. Baby was born natural and both were healthy.
2. My intuition. After 3 yrs of trying to get pregnant in my late 30’s, when I finally did, you bet I wanted a memorable experience. My first visits with the doctor were disconnected, sterile and challenging. I wanted a healthy pregnancy, baby and birth and I knew I was going about it the wrong way. So I began exploring my options- I mean women had been birthing since the beginning of time. There had to be a better way!
My desire to research led me down an amazing path.
This path led me to Liesl who was the assistant midwife for my first born.
I begin and ended my first birth journey right where I felt safest. In the comfort of my home. (minus the conception in Las Vegas😮). With my husband (who caught his boy), sister (LVN in training), father (who sang to me) and two midwives-and my desires became reality. My body took about 12 hrs to bring my first baby to me. I pushed for 23 min. I felt exhilarated, orgasmic and like a f***** warrior!!! Seriously- where can I get that in a pill! Alexander was born 12/21/12- the end of the Mayan calendar, the year of the dragon on his due date!
So… I had to do it again 21 months later, and I didn’t want to change a thing.
My second was also born at home, inches from where her brother and I met in person. Daysha was and continues to be a breath of fresh air, born 8/18/14- in 4 hrs and 4 pushes as my 18mos old son slept in another room. I was shocked at how quickly it all went. The birth tub took the edge off the process and I wished I learned how to heat that bad boy during my first birth. Liesl was the lead midwife and I knew I was in good hands.
Trust in myself. A strong capable body. The belief in a better way. And with the guided expertise of my midwives, I forever have the birth stories I never dreamt of- but definitely experienced.
From Dad's perspective!:
For me, the birth experience for our first child started with an open curiosity of the options we have in the Bay Area and an initial visit to a hospital Dr. that left my wife and myself with a less than positive experience. My feeling, through images of pregnancy and birth from movies and other media, was that birth was a very sterile medical procedure that required drugs and lots of intervention into the process. My skeptical mind asked “Surely, I wouldn’t get a root canal at home when I can go to an ultra controlled environment and be shielded from the pain, right?” As we pursued the path of home birth, I began to realize what a false analogy that question was, and became aware of my wife’s incredible ability to know what her body was experiencing and perhaps masking that with drugs and more invasive procedures was not in her’s and our child’s best interest. I felt as if the whole experience (from first meeting with Liesl and the other midwives to the eventual birth-day) was just that, ‘an experience’. It was not an occasion to turn the reigns over to the professionals who knew better than my wife’s instinctual abilities and knowledge gained by steady meetings with our midwives over months. I felt included in the process all the way through, culminating in the actual ability to catch my son in my hands and snip both the umbilical cords of my son and daughter. This is priceless to me and I feel forever grateful for the ability to experience this with my wife and Liesl.